If obedience is in your heart already because God has been speaking it to you, then it does not sound harsh or bizarre, does it? Puzzling, maybe, but not exactly wrong, right?
If you have been seeking God for an answer to submission problems, then these words are worth checking out with His Word.
If you are rejecting this without pondering on it, wait. Keep pondering; don’t reject just yet. God will recall it to you when you are ready.
Fear the LORD and the king, my son, and do not join with the rebellious. Proverbs 24:21.
We are to be like Christ.
Jesus did not enjoy submitting to suffering, obeying unto death. The Word tells us He set His face like a flint, that He did it because of a future joy. He did not obey and die for the fun of it. Because of this, He can identify with the submitting wife who is not enjoying the task. He was in every way tempted as we are. Yet, He did not sin.
Not sinning is our goal.
However, sinning can seem more fun, in the short run.
Sometimes submission causes us embarrassment. Our “friends” call us foolish for doing some task we do not believe in. The world mocks us. We feel stupid for picking this husband.
There is shame in submitting, yes, just as there was shame in hanging naked from a cross. Yet the Word tells us that Jesus scorned, despised, threw off that shame. He refused to receive the disgrace because the Father helped Him.
We can do that.
The shame in submitting is because of the WORLD’S low opinion. Oh, the joy that the Father’s high regard for the lowly is our help!
Do you realize Mary’s agreeable attitude toward unwed motherhood gave us Jesus?
If ever anything seemed wrong, this would fit the description. Yes, there was shame in that. She scorned it, though.
“He hath regarded the low estate of His handmaiden, and exalted them of low degree.”
She said that. She shrugged off the shame. WHAT shame? Look at the future joy and bear it.
Or, as Jesus said, no one can take your life from you if you give it freely.
With all that for introduction, I want to share one of the times I have had to submit.
I mean I did not want to do the next thing, but I did it anyway in deference to my husband and to my God.
I mean I knew he was wrong. I knew that I knew better and cared more.
When my husband and I married, we were both unsaved, but it was easy to agree most of the time because our backgrounds were similar. We had many dreams that coincided nicely.
The only difference was in the area of family size. He wanted only one child, while I wanted at least six. I figured I knew how to overcome THAT.
When we came to the Lord, we both changed overnight. We suddenly loved righteousness.
I had a newfound desire for and commitment to submission, which will eventually hit the new Christian wife. I could no longer rely on my powers of persuasion to achieve what I determined was God’s will for us.
We still agreed on everything, except family size. I had eased him all the way up to desiring two children, while I still wanted at least six. This was not much progress from my point of view, for all the hinting and seducing I had done.
Then I read a book that changed my whole perspective. It was an early edition of The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom. At the end of the book was a teaching about thankfulness as a lifestyle, thanking God for everything about life, even if we did not especially like it. Corrie had learned this in Ravensbruck, to the point of thanking God for body lice!
The idea is that our all-wise, loving, and merciful Father is all-powerful. If He has not given the change I wanted, it must not be His will to change it, and I should thank Him.
I resolved to leave it totally up to God. If He did not want me to have six children, then neither did I. I still thought I was right and my husband was wrong, but I thanked God and waited.
I do not believe I said anything to my husband about more children. I loved the two I had, tried to be loving and cheerful to my husband, and waited. I felt that someday God would show me why. It was no longer me against my husband, but me submitting to him, as unto God, with thanksgiving.
One day my husband came to me, trembling with something he had to tell me. He did not know how to begin. My mind filled with anticipation of the worst. Finally, he blurted out, “I think God wants us to have another baby.”
Naturally, I was ecstatic. Soon we were up to three. I was half way to “MY” goal and it had been so much easier for me to lie low, rather than try to do God’s job.
My husband warned me to enjoy this last one because there would be no more.
I knew what God could do if He wanted more, so I thanked Him and waited.
Within four years my husband came to the realization that God wanted him to listen and have more children whenever He told him. Now and then, God would tell my husband, and we would have another. After twenty years of marriage, number six finally arrived.
It is important to emphasize that we never argued about this issue. My husband led and I obeyed. And God took over.
Our resulting happiness is more than enough reward for those years of waiting, obeying, and wondering.
Think about it.
Love, Aunt Vic