I am so glad my last letter blessed you! I can tell you have put a lot of thought into it. Please do not be embarrassed to ask questions.
What if he’s wrong?
Good question! Can you believe I’m glad you asked? Trouble is, there are so many answers, I may get writer’s cramp. At least I can begin, though.
There are so many ways a husband can be wrong! The poor dears are usually doing their best, but are held under very close scrutiny by people who can be quite hard to please: wives.
Think about it. How do you feel if your hair turns out wrong? How do you feel if the carpet is wrinkled? The clock is behind a little? The light bulb burned out?
I’m sure there are hundreds of tiny things that can cause this feeling in a wife: displeasure. It’s not overwhelming, but it can build up.
Think of ten things that displease you.
Imagine your feelings of all ten of them happened in one morning. Imagine how it would be if you also dwelt on these displeasing happenings all day. You’d be depressed or angry. Then every time you looked in a mirror, or at the clock, or tripped over carpet on your way to turn on the light, you’d remember all ten things and start feeling worse.
A normal human male is capable of doing ten displeasing things. He could leave toothpaste open, re-fold newspapers imperfectly, lose umbrellas, park under sappy trees, leave wash cloths in the shower, use too much salt, etc., giving his wife plenty on which to meditate all day, if she chose. Then every time she looked at him she could remember all ten things and start feeling worse. Soon a day would come when he would make a huge blunder, something like dropping a bucket of paint on a brick patio or erasing the computer, and his wife, who is supposed to be his friend, is the first to turn on him and . . .
Of course I know you’d never do that, but it helps to put things into perspective.
There are varying degrees of wrongness and varying responses, accordingly.
It is wrong to leave the toothpaste uncapped, for instance, because it is an unsanitary practice and poor stewardship. As a good helpmeet, you should help him be clean and protect his property, not by scolding him about the cap, but by quietly placing the cap onto the tube. If this happens every morning for an entire marriage, you will cap his toothpaste around 18,000 times. You can do that and you should do it with joy because it is an honor to be a toothpaste capper for the LORD of Hosts.
What? You’re not putting the cap on for Jesus? Oh, I’m so sorry to hear that, because it is the very thing He has asked you to do! Ephesians 5:22 says your submission to your husband should be “as unto the Lord.” The Lord, Himself, has given you this privileged position as a man-helper. You help your man and the Lord is blessed. If you do not, He is not.
Whew! That was only one category of response! If your husband is wrong but you can quietly fix it, do so with joy.
It’s your God-given task.
You CAN do it.
And I think you would do that much for me, so why not for Dan?
I’ll write more next week.
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